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Emotions can betray you at work

These are stressful times in the workplace. No one feels secure in their jobs. There’s a gloom hanging over most offices. More workers are being forced to take unpaid days off.

It’s easy, then, to let your emotions get the better of you. Maybe the boss asks you to do one more unpaid job. You’re already swamped. So you snap, and tell your boss exactly what you think of this one extra duty.

That may feel good in the moment. It won’t feel quite as good, though, when you’re searching the classifieds for a new job.

The Wall Street Journal ran an interesting story on the perils of letting your emotions get the better of you at work. The author talks about the days when she would cry at the office, openly. She wisely advises against doing this now. No one, after all, wants to work with a weeper.

It’s natural to be ticked off at work. Who isn’t these days? You may want to feel like crying, too. I know I do whenever a mandatory meeting takes up an entire afternoon.

But keep those emotions bottled up. I know therapists — and, often, spouses — say this is a bad thing. But at work, it can save your job.

Tempers flare as economy worsens

It’s not pleasant out in the workplace these days. I got a firsthand reminder of that yesterday.

One of my main freelance jobs is to serve as the editor of a trade magazine for commercial real estate professionals. Of course, the real estate industry is in a freefall right now. To say it’s crashing is an understatement. It’s more like it’s already exploded and everyone’s scrambling to pick up the pieces.

For the magazine, this is bad news. As real estate companies struggle, few want to spend money on advertising. Really, you can’t blame them. That has led to tense salespeople at my office, especially since most of them work on a commission basis.

Our latest issue came out yesterday. We were tight on space, and I had, at the last minute, held a column. There wasn’t room for it, so I slated it to run in our next issue, which it will.

The column was written by an advertiser. From the reaction from the sales staff, you would have thougth I set our office on fire in the middle of the night. Everyone was livid. Thing is, no one took the time to even call the advertiser to see if they were upset. My hunch? The advertiser would understand the space issues and would not have been at all upset that the column would run one issue later than originally planned.

Turns out, I was right. All that whining and moaning was misplaced. The advertiser didn’t care. The advertiser understood.

This is a good lesson: Everyone’s tense right now. These are incredibly difficult times in the working world. No one’s job is secure. But letting your temper get the best of you never helps. Cool off before you make that accusatory phone call. Take a few minutes before typing that howling e-mail. You might be — just maybe — overreacting a bit.